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Title: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: MrBump on December 05, 2009, 08:29:04 PM
Just got a friend request from an old school mate - excellent, I thought.  Haven't seen or had any contact from the fella for over 20 years.

Then I clicked on his profile.

The face staring back at me was that of a rotund, middle-aged man. 

What happened to us?  When did everyone get so old???

Is 38 too young for a mid-life crisis?
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: Twinfan on December 05, 2009, 08:51:51 PM
I know what you mean mate!

I look about 15 yeas younger than my class mates  :o  I think the abundance of hair helps  ;)
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: _tom_ on December 05, 2009, 08:57:12 PM
I still look about 16-17 at 21, so I hope I won't be one of these balding, middle aged men you describe :lol:
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: FELINEGUITARS on December 05, 2009, 09:03:36 PM
At 44 I know what you mean - although I may look the youngest in my class.
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: Philly Q on December 05, 2009, 09:05:40 PM
I think I look younger than my age, and I'm not very "mature" (in both good and bad ways).  But I'm not in contact with anyone from my schooldays (and I don't do Facebook etc) so god knows what they may look like now.

But hey, to the 20-somethings I'm probably a right old fart.  :(
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: Davey on December 05, 2009, 10:05:47 PM
i'm a 27 year old grumpy old man, so no.. 38 aint old to have a midlife crisis
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: shobet on December 05, 2009, 10:08:43 PM
I'm still the prettiest.
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: Elliot on December 05, 2009, 11:09:33 PM
I look old rotund and bald - it just means I drank more beer than the rest of you  :lol:
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: Afghan Dave on December 06, 2009, 12:29:50 AM
I look f**kin hot... and still pull young birds & the odd old slapper.

(probably because I have a stunted level of maturity and have doggedly avoided any hint of success so I am still as hungry and naive as I was as a teenager)

Thankfully the powerful anti-depressants I'm taking have not clouded my judgement.
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: Mr. Air on December 06, 2009, 10:23:13 AM
I don't know if you can call it a midlife crisis, but my girl was found it quite hard to turn 20. She thought she now was a grown up and should have sorted her life out.

I'm looking quite "youngish" myself (and so do a lot of my old class mates) and the students I teach are quite shocked when I tell them that I'm 30. They can't believe I'm that old  :D
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: gwEm on December 06, 2009, 11:01:26 AM
i used to be quite concerned about age, much less so now i've hit 30. as long as you know how to lay it down, i don't think it matters so much these days.

anyhow, clearly from this thread 80s metal has an anti-aging effect  8)
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: 38thBeatle on December 06, 2009, 11:34:56 AM
I don't know what you lot of young scamps are moaning at- you should be really old like be, see how you like them apples.
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: jibidy on December 06, 2009, 02:19:20 PM
Im 20, you all old.

Im kidding, I have long hair and always tie it back and i now have a receding hair line as a result :(

As long as I can get a great bushy beard by the time my hair goes I don't mind. But I do not want to look like devin townsend.
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: Philly Q on December 06, 2009, 03:06:22 PM
Im kidding, I have long hair and always tie it back and i now have a receding hair line as a result :(

I don't think tying your hair back makes it recede - you might be breaking hairs by pulling them back, but it doesn't stop them growing at the root.  If you really are losing it it's probably just male pattern baldness, simple as that.

Everybody loses hairs every day (to be replaced by new ones) but if your hair's long those shed hairs are much more noticeable when you use a brush or comb!  I had long hair and got it cut because I was convinced I was starting to lose it, but that was nearly 15 years ago and it hasn't changed much, if at all, since.  It's always been very fine and thin, and maybe it's a bit thinner now, but my hairline hasn't changed and I haven't got any bald patches.  Touch wood.  :wink:
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: blue on December 06, 2009, 11:37:14 PM
i, too, look much younger than my classmates.  i have two cousins who are within 6 weeks of me age wise, and when a new girl started working with us recently she was astounded when she discovered i was the same age as them.  she thought they were at least ten years older than me!!  and that i was 7 or 8 years younger than i am :)

could the fact that they're married and i'm not have anything to do with it?  or is it just guitar that keeps us all young? ;)
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: Philly Q on December 07, 2009, 01:01:58 AM
could the fact that they're married and i'm not have anything to do with it?  or is it just guitar that keeps us all young? :wink:

I sometimes think that.  I haven't had any of the stresses and strains that relationships, marriages and kids bring (on the other hand I haven't had the benefits either).

On the guitar thing, or for that matter having any hobby and sticking at it for many years, I've often thought there's a "clinging to your youth" element - and maybe it's literally true.   Is it a good or a bad thing?  I feel like I haven't really "grown up"  compared with many people I know - they're no longer the person they used to be in any way, physically or mentally, whereas I don't think I've changed much at all (but maybe they think the same?  :? ). 

Then again, vast numbers of "mature" men behave like children over football matches every week.  And even if they no longer try to play guitar or collect CDs, they find something else to waste money on.   At least I've never developed "grown up" habits like alcoholism and smoking....


Or it could just be genetics.  My dad's 75, looks much younger and has a full head of hair, most of it still brown.  He's 2 stone lighter than me as well.  Old git.  :wink:
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: mikeluke on December 07, 2009, 09:49:09 AM
I happened upon a phot this week of myself and Mrs L taken about 17 years ago - the kids were wondering if we were the same people...

No grey hair...
More hair....
At least I can get into the same size clothes as back then. (I am 48 now...)


On the topic - when is 'too old' to be in a rock band? I mean Jagger does it at 60-odd.....

Hopefully I have a good few years left in me yet
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: Twinfan on December 07, 2009, 10:46:03 AM
I joined my first proper band, YC/DC?, at 31.  My band mates are all 40+, so jump in Mike - the water's lovely!

I credit my youthfullness to having no kids.  Myself and Mrs Twinfan live for ourselves, and that keeps you young!
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: _tom_ on December 07, 2009, 10:51:10 AM
I think it's right about the music thing. Me and the other guitarist in my old band were the youngest at around 18, whilst the other guys are all 40+. They still have a laugh with immature jokes and that sort of thing, always fun when I get to play with them again (but wouldn't want to do it every week!) :D
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: Philly Q on December 07, 2009, 11:55:17 AM
On the topic - when is 'too old' to be in a rock band? I mean Jagger does it at 60-odd.....

If you're doing it for fun, you're never too old.

If you're labouring under the illusion that you're some kind of 23-year-old sex god, it's time to knock it on the head.

[cough]Mick Jagger[/cough]
[cough]Rod Stewart[/cough]
[cough]Aerosmith[/cough]

Sorry, I seem to be coming down with a cold.....
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: Will on December 07, 2009, 12:02:46 PM
And Bon Jovi? The new video reminds me of Coldplay or the band that sang about 'greatest days of our lives'
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: 38thBeatle on December 07, 2009, 12:36:03 PM
Well at my veritable age I am gigging as much as I ever did and still loving it and still learning new things. I expect I'll get one of those electric scooters in the years to come and turn up to gigs in that-only mine won't be red, it'll be black and silver with chrome eagles over it and cow horn handlebars..and no cr@p grey tyres- they'll be black and slicker than a thing that is very slick.....hey I am warming to this old age thing which is probably just as well really.
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: Johnny Mac on December 07, 2009, 10:50:44 PM
Well most of my hair is grey and some receding but it's hair, so I'm thankful. I could do without it growing in my ears though.
I'm carrying more weight than I used to, but not as much as the beginning of the year. I've still got 20/20 vision and the hearing isn't too bad considering all the gigs I've been to. I've got better gear than I had when I was in my 20's and I can play a lot better than them days.
I'm getting my nuts in more than ever. I have a car that always starts and I'm never skint (when I'm working) so I'm loving it all really!  :D
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: choucas09 on December 08, 2009, 02:34:59 AM
Cop this then, A. I'm probably the oldest person on this forum (56), B. Whilst I still have some hair on top I've got a forehead the size of Devon and the bald patch round the back is like a helicopter landing pad, C. I'm about two stone overweight, D. I have a considerable drink and drugs history and broke my back in 79  am disabled and have broken fourteen other bones on other wild nights. E. I'm bipolar (which sort of explains D). On the plus side my earlobes are beautiful.
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: JDC on December 09, 2009, 02:44:21 AM
I think part of looking old is dressing old, lifeless baggy clothes, especially beige, never looked good on anyone
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: mikeluke on December 09, 2009, 01:33:52 PM
You can never have too much beige....

Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: JDC on December 09, 2009, 05:07:32 PM
maybe dave should start a collection of beige guitars
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: Twinfan on December 09, 2009, 05:14:08 PM
Errr, no.  Not gonna happen.
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: Philly Q on December 09, 2009, 05:54:21 PM
Quite a few guitar colours are beige(ish) - Desert Sand, Mary Kaye White, Blonde, Vintage White...

And Shoreline Gold is basically that dreary greyish old-man's-shoes colour, but with a few sparkly bits.
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: Ted 'N' Leo on December 09, 2009, 06:07:46 PM
I'm 21, and have been completely bald since i've been 18, i'm afraid it just happens to some people, at varying ages! So i look quite a lot older than most of my peers!
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: badgermark on December 09, 2009, 09:03:20 PM
Age is depressing, I'm 23 in a few days and everyone at works places my age closer to 30. Worst thing is I feel old now. Going slightly grey and feel like a miserable, tired bar-steward all the time.
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: murraymurray on December 09, 2009, 09:43:23 PM
Im 29 in 2 weeks, not the oldest in the band this time luckily, have a 32 year old.
My last band started with 2 guys older than me, then they both moved away and then i was about 4 years older than the next dude.
i feel like im technically getting old, should be a grown up etc, stop buying guitars and buy boring things like a house. but instead of doing that i just party, buy stuff that i dont need, and have a 21 year old girlfriend. still got long hair, dont think im going bald yet, my hair is thin/fine, but it always has been, havent seen the back of my head for a long time so not sure if anythings going on back there. havent spotted any greys yet.
Gonna hold on to my youth as long as possible.

Back on topic of facebook, im always getting hit up with friend requests from people i never talked to in high school, why would i want to be their virtual friend when i was never their RL friend?? i normally add them, stalk through their profile, have a laugh at them were applicable then delete them a week later.
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: Philly Q on December 09, 2009, 09:43:52 PM
Age is depressing, I'm 23 in a few days and everyone at works places my age closer to 30. Worst thing is I feel old now. Going slightly grey and feel like a miserable, tired bar-steward all the time.

You can't be depressed about age at 23!!!!  Even if you do look 30.  :wink:
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: dheim on December 10, 2009, 12:30:26 AM
well, i'm 33, i look a bit younger than i am but i feel old as the world itself... :)
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: badgermark on December 11, 2009, 05:07:23 PM
forget it
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: dheim on December 11, 2009, 05:36:40 PM
Age is depressing, I'm 23 in a few days and everyone at works places my age closer to 30. Worst thing is I feel old now. Going slightly grey and feel like a miserable, tired bar-steward all the time.

You can't be depressed about age at 23!!!!  Even if you do look 30.  :wink:

The irony is I'm massively depressed and been thinking of the S word for the past few weeks. Thanks for the wink, makes me feel much better.

don't even say the s thing, please! depression comes and goes, just ask yourself why is it happening... could you possibly hate your work? i sometimes do... :)
depression makes you look older too. definitely.
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: Afghan Dave on December 11, 2009, 07:49:50 PM
There is NO need for anyone to feel depressed on the BKP board... Especially you badgermark...

Because...

Afghan Dave has enough love and hugs to go around!
(Miley Cyrus ain't called yet so I've got a window) :P

 PDT_015 PDT_012 PDT_008

I've found SO many ways of coping with depression and internally focused perfectionism I'm always happy to be hit by a PM and given a chance to help...

Now FIX-UP and stop yer whining.  PDT_001

Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: Afghan Dave on December 11, 2009, 07:52:49 PM
Music is the best remedy and this is what's prescribed by Dr Dave!

(WARNING - may induce mild nausea in the very young)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GdDxz2bkfhE
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: badgermark on December 11, 2009, 09:56:08 PM
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Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: Philly Q on December 11, 2009, 11:47:34 PM
Music is the best remedy and this is what's prescribed by Dr Dave!

(WARNING - may induce mild nausea in the very young)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GdDxz2bkfhE

Well it cheered me up!

Just got back from a depressing annual event - the office Christmas party.  All those frumpy-looking girls you see 364 days a year suddenly turn out to be gorgeous.  Even without the aid of beer goggles.

At least when I was in my 20s or 30s this was a theoretical window of opportunity... now all I can do is look.  :(



Age is depressing, I'm 23 in a few days and everyone at works places my age closer to 30. Worst thing is I feel old now. Going slightly grey and feel like a miserable, tired bar-steward all the time.

You can't be depressed about age at 23!!!!  Even if you do look 30.  :wink:

The irony is I'm massively depressed and been thinking of the S word for the past few weeks. Thanks for the wink, makes me feel much better.

don't even say the s thing, please! depression comes and goes, just ask yourself why is it happening... could you possibly hate your work? i sometimes do... :)
depression makes you look older too. definitely.

I know I'm going to be embarrassed.... but what's the S word???
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: Afghan Dave on December 12, 2009, 12:07:31 AM
The word?

Have you not heard?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2WNrx2jq184
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: Philly Q on December 12, 2009, 12:09:44 AM
The word?

Have you not heard?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2WNrx2jq184

I've been singing that song in my head ever since I saw the phrase "the .... word"!  :lol:
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: Afghan Dave on December 12, 2009, 12:11:57 AM
Ya got it...

The S word is ....

SURFIN' bird!  :P
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: Mr. Air on December 12, 2009, 12:05:13 PM
Ya got it...

The S word is ....

SURFIN' bird!  :P

The episode with Surfin' Bird is just hilarious! Best Family Guy episode if you ask me.
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: dheim on December 12, 2009, 02:21:56 PM
Music is the best remedy and this is what's prescribed by Dr Dave!

(WARNING - may induce mild nausea in the very young)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GdDxz2bkfhE

Well it cheered me up!

Just got back from a depressing annual event - the office Christmas party.  All those frumpy-looking girls you see 364 days a year suddenly turn out to be gorgeous.  Even without the aid of beer goggles.

At least when I was in my 20s or 30s this was a theoretical window of opportunity... now all I can do is look.  :(



Age is depressing, I'm 23 in a few days and everyone at works places my age closer to 30. Worst thing is I feel old now. Going slightly grey and feel like a miserable, tired bar-steward all the time.

You can't be depressed about age at 23!!!!  Even if you do look 30.  :wink:

The irony is I'm massively depressed and been thinking of the S word for the past few weeks. Thanks for the wink, makes me feel much better.

don't even say the s thing, please! depression comes and goes, just ask yourself why is it happening... could you possibly hate your work? i sometimes do... :)
depression makes you look older too. definitely.

I know I'm going to be embarrassed.... but what's the S word???

oh, maybe i got it wrong, y'know, i'm very pessimistic... :)
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: dheim on December 12, 2009, 02:24:41 PM
At least when I was in my 20s or 30s this was a theoretical window of opportunity... now all I can do is look.  :(

don't mind, go and slap their b*tts, maybe you're the erotic dream of some of them and you don't know...

my soul has been temporarily possessed by Afghan Dave, sorry... :)
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: Philly Q on December 12, 2009, 02:34:38 PM
At least when I was in my 20s or 30s this was a theoretical window of opportunity... now all I can do is look.  :(

don't mind, go and slap their b*tts, maybe you're the erotic dream of some of them and you don't know...

my soul has been temporarily possessed by Afghan Dave, sorry... :)

 :lol:  Nice idea.... but NO.
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: Afghan Dave on December 12, 2009, 02:59:22 PM
my soul has been temporarily possessed by Afghan Dave, sorry... :)

Could you feel me inside you? :lol:
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: dheim on December 12, 2009, 04:27:13 PM
er...  :oops:
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: MrBump on December 13, 2009, 08:54:06 AM
my soul has been temporarily possessed by Afghan Dave, sorry... :)

Could you feel me inside you? :lol:

Eeeeuuuggghhh!!!
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: sgmypod on December 13, 2009, 09:17:56 AM
my soul has been temporarily possessed by Afghan Dave, sorry... :)

Could you feel me inside you? :lol:
I could and next time could you at least ask first
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: Ted 'N' Leo on December 13, 2009, 09:17:07 PM
my soul has been temporarily possessed by Afghan Dave, sorry... :)

Could you feel me inside you? :lol:

This is indeed a disturbing universe!
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: Johnny Mac on December 15, 2009, 07:27:39 PM
Music is the best remedy and this is what's prescribed by Dr Dave!

(WARNING - may induce mild nausea in the very young)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GdDxz2bkfhE

Well it cheered me up!

Just got back from a depressing annual event - the office Christmas party.  All those frumpy-looking girls you see 364 days a year suddenly turn out to be gorgeous.  Even without the aid of beer goggles.

At least when I was in my 20s or 30s this was a theoretical window of opportunity... now all I can do is look.  :(


Phil, there is no reason why you couldn't pull Brenda in accounts. There are loads of single woman, go talk to them and ask them if they fancy a drink sometime. The worst that can happen is they say no. So the more you ask the more chances you get of them saying yes. Honestly mate its easy. A lot easier than playing a guitar in a shop with lots of other customers in there!
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: Philly Q on December 15, 2009, 08:59:39 PM
Thanks for the encouragement Johnny, but one of my (many, many) hangups is a total inability to deal with rejection.  The first knockback would be the last.  :lol:
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: Johnny Mac on December 15, 2009, 09:17:14 PM
Thanks for the encouragement Johnny, but one of my (many, many) hangups is a total inability to deal with rejection.  The first knockback would be the last.  :lol:

Well i was like that once but it gets easier the more it happens.
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: JDC on December 15, 2009, 09:33:33 PM
fear of rejection is natural you just gotta power through, if they say no you just go "NEXT!!!" in your head, not out loud ;)
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: Muttley on December 15, 2009, 09:38:52 PM
I cured myself of the curse of Facebook the easy way.... Got fed up with the cr@ppy interface and stupid games people kept sending me and deleted my account.  ;)
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: Philly Q on December 15, 2009, 09:49:44 PM
fear of rejection is natural you just gotta power through, if they say no you just go "NEXT!!!" in your head, not out loud ;)

It might be interesting to say it out loud, just to see the reaction.  :wink:
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: Ted 'N' Leo on December 15, 2009, 10:24:55 PM
fear of rejection is natural you just gotta power through, if they say no you just go "NEXT!!!" in your head, not out loud ;)


You mean you're not supposed to say that out loud?
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: 38thBeatle on December 15, 2009, 11:00:16 PM
Whenever I used to get a rejection I used to think "there will be a song in this".
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: choucas09 on December 16, 2009, 01:19:36 AM
"She said I was shitee, I'll be playin all night."
Title: Re: The Curse of Facebook
Post by: dave_mc on December 16, 2009, 02:53:54 PM
i think i look fairly young for my age. i remember a couple of years ago i was helping with a university open day for a-level pupils, and the lecturer in charge thought i was one of the school kids (i guess i was about 23 at the time). :D

Whenever I used to get a rejection I used to think "there will be a song in this".

"some creep tried to hit on me and i phoned the cops"?

probably better not to go for musicians in hindsight...