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Title: I am Glad today is over
Post by: 38thBeatle on September 27, 2010, 09:34:04 PM
I haven't been so active of late on the forum as I have been grieving for the loss of my dear old Dad.We held the funeral today and I had to say my last goodbye to the greatest man who has ever lived ( well he isn't but he seems that way to me). He gave me so much in his quiet way- he never judged anyone, accepted people and had the heart of a lion but was kind and generous and many times I saw him help people when others would have looked the other way.He encouraged me in music and bought me my Fender Bass many years ago and I value it even more now.I heard today that he was very proud that I derived so much from my (modest) playing career. Now it is time I shall move with life live it the way he lived his.
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Post by: ToneMonkey on September 27, 2010, 09:42:24 PM
Sorry to hear that man.  :(
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Post by: blue on September 27, 2010, 09:46:06 PM
i'm very sorry to hear about your loss, i hope your memories are a comfort.

with sympathy,

Colin
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Post by: MDV on September 27, 2010, 09:57:45 PM
My condolences. So sorry for your loss.

Typing things to someone you've never met over the internet seems so futile in the face of such a thing...cant think of damned thing worth saying thats doesnt sound like a platitude, condescension or a bloody hallmark card. Save maybe that he was obviously a good man, and I'm glad you've taken the best of what he had to show you with you. Theres a lesson in that for all of us.  

Sympathies and best wishes

Mark
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Post by: Ian Price on September 27, 2010, 10:31:20 PM
^ ^

There's nothing I can say that would put it in such a nice way as Mark has. Very sorry for your loss

Ian.
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Post by: 38thBeatle on September 27, 2010, 10:55:08 PM
Thanks you guys for your kind words. 
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Post by: gwEm on September 27, 2010, 10:56:52 PM
its sad to hear about your loss - my sincere sympathies.

i wrote alot more here though decided it was inappropriate. but briefly, it is surprising what stories come out in such situations. i write this regarding his support of your music. that must be poignant, i would find it so.
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Post by: FernandoDuarte on September 27, 2010, 11:15:38 PM
I've no good words to say mate, but I'm really sorry to hear it... This is something really hard to anyone, specially when you had great relation with him!

:(
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Post by: Afghan Dave on September 28, 2010, 12:25:34 AM
My sincerest condolences to you and treasure his memory.
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Post by: Denim n Leather on September 28, 2010, 12:55:30 AM
Wow. Terrible news. You have my sincerest condolences. I shall raise a glass in his honour!
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Post by: PhilKing on September 28, 2010, 01:06:02 AM
Sorry to hear that this happened.   I can't imagine how it feels and I am dreading the moment when I will know.  All I can say is that I'm very sorry for your loss.
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Post by: dave_mc on September 28, 2010, 01:10:00 AM
^ ^

There's nothing I can say that would put it in such a nice way as Mark has. Very sorry for your loss

Ian.

same here. I'm really sorry to hear that, and I think Mark said it better than I could. :(
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Post by: 38thBeatle on September 28, 2010, 06:23:36 AM
Thanks everyone.It is something we all have to accept in life but you are right to say think of the good times, the fun and laughter and the fact that I had him as part of my life for so long( he was 18 when his Dad died).Thanks again to everyone- you might think that you are using just words but beleive me they are well received. En route to the chapel yesterday a couple of people stood and bowed their heads as we went past. Another lady crossed herself and other drivers were very courteous in allowing a long stream of slow cars to pass at junctions. That raised our spirits- the kindness of strangers. My Dad was a "kind stranger" many times in his life and those gestures made me realise that it is still there in the world and that there is hope for us all. 
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Post by: AndyR on September 28, 2010, 08:25:18 AM
Sorry to hear about this.

He sounds like he was a wonderful man.
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Post by: Twinfan on September 28, 2010, 08:26:46 AM
Many condolences on your loss Steve, may the happy memories live on forever.

Enjoy that bass, and I hope it makes you smile whenever you pick it up...
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Post by: gordiji on September 28, 2010, 08:39:01 AM
the way you talk of your father says everything.happy hearts normally start out with loving parents.
condolences 38th, may all beings find peace.
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Post by: shobet on September 28, 2010, 09:02:10 AM
My sincere condolences to you and your family.
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Post by: Ratrod on September 28, 2010, 10:29:02 AM
My sincererest condolences.

Much strength to you and your family.
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Post by: Prawnik on September 28, 2010, 05:33:07 PM
Memory Eternal
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Post by: _tom_ on September 28, 2010, 06:04:46 PM
Sorry to hear this Steve, sounds like you have some great memories of him to keep.
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Post by: Philly Q on September 28, 2010, 06:34:10 PM
I don't really know what to say, but my condolences.

It's not much in the way of consolation right now, but from what you've said your memories will be good ones.
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Post by: 38thBeatle on September 28, 2010, 07:40:35 PM
Thanks all yes all the good wishes do help and I am grateful- the old man would be smiling too.
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Post by: Fourth Feline on September 28, 2010, 10:47:55 PM
Sorry to join this late, but I hope this time traverses through the intial burn, to the warm afterglow as soon as is humanly possible. I appreciate that it can be as complex a time as it is painful.

However ;  the memory of a great man, the example he set - and the inspiration he has 'stamped' on your own onward influence - that is the stuff that lives on .  That uncanny feeling you will often get in the years ahead,  when you feel him next to you , and inside your thoughts, wherever you are.   It's as if (in the longer term ) we never truly 'lose' our loved ones, we simply free them from one geographical location.

Respectful regards to the 'Leader of the band' - and his family.

Derek.
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Post by: 38thBeatle on September 29, 2010, 07:38:35 PM
Thanks Derek- very nicely put as always.
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Post by: Ted 'N' Leo on September 30, 2010, 10:33:50 PM
I'm very sorry to hear that 38th.

Stu
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Post by: Tellboy on October 01, 2010, 10:07:28 AM
Only just read this - so sorry to hear about your father Steve. You obviously had a great relationship with your father and will miss him as a friend as well as a parent. The good memories you have of him will in time ease what you're feeling now.
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Post by: ToneMonkey on October 01, 2010, 12:55:15 PM
For what it's worth, my wifes little sister died some years back (she was only 9 at the time) and whenever I think about her nowadays, I always have a little smile on my face.

Things are real tough to begin with, but further down the line it seems that only the happy memories remain.  We were looking through some of her old drawings the other day which made me smile.

Sounds like he was a good man, so there should be a lot of happy memories to fall back on.  Just takes a while for them to come to the front.

Good luck mate.
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Post by: 38thBeatle on October 01, 2010, 07:39:05 PM
Thanks all-your kind words are a help I can assure you.
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Post by: lulusg on October 02, 2010, 01:36:17 AM
My condolences....
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Post by: Johnny Mac on October 03, 2010, 06:53:10 PM
Sorry to hear your sad news Steve. You speak of him very fondly. It must be hard for you. I hope your ok.
I've not been in the forum much recently so only just read this thread.
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Post by: 38thBeatle on October 03, 2010, 10:20:47 PM
Thanks guys.It is sinking in that I am not going to see him anymore and I keep thinking I hear him but it must be wishful thinking. Luckily I have a great family and we are all rallying around each other which is what he'd have wanted.