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At The Back => Time Out => Topic started by: Bainzy on September 17, 2006, 06:34:26 PM
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At Nottingham Uni, doing a Management degree. I'm quite looking forward to it, but I'm growing rather concerned that most of the socialising opportunities seem to be centered around going to nightclubs, listening to dance/R&B/techno/gansta-rap music and binge drinking. Not really my ideal concept of fun to be honest.
Do you guys reckon I should go along with it for the first week, or give it a miss?
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I'm feeling your pain Bainzy, sounds like my Uni back when I was studying. I would do the whole freshers week thing, you'll get to meet alot of people and quickly find out who's worth bothering with.
You should've come to Newcastle - there's a decent pub/music scene round here.
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Ha, my Bro went off to Oxford Brooks today to do Accounting & Law, smart arse :lol:
At the risk of sounding like a softy I will probably miss him, but he is back at christmas anyway, so it won't be that long till he is back again.
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If you do cr@p that you don't like doing, you are not going to be too happy, so why put yourself through it ?
Theres bound to be somewhere worth going to, go there and meet people.
Rob...
Don't listen to me though as I never go out (cept to work)
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so why put yourself through it ?
To meet good looking women? :lol:
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Nottingham Rock City is the Answer !!
Shun the the regular nightclubs and go and see rock bands
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Yea Rock City is good for a laugh, but sadly they have very few good gigs on at the moment.
Bainzy I would go with the flow, you don't have to binge drink just chill out and relax cos its all good fun.
Theres a good rock pub called tap and tumbler I usually go to, its proper old school and has an internet jukebox so u can play any song u like
Gimme a shout if u need any info on Notts
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I've just managed to live through my freshers week without dying of alcohol poisoning...
My tip for you: Do EVERYTHING.
Its in the first week that you get to meet everyone and bond with a particular group of people.
Even if you THINK you'll hate it, you'll have fun meeting new people. Its harder to break the ice later on in term. First impressions can stick, so make sure your not 'the boring guy who doesn't go out'.
I went to nearly every freshers night and allthough I spent far too much money at places I wouldn't usually be seen dead, I have had a great time talking to other first year students.
Seriously. Grin and bare it mate! Good luck. :)
After that, go see some REAL music and do your own thing! :D
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don't drink too much, most of the girls there will be drinking loads, and why would you want to make things hard for yourself
plus we all know that's a great way to break the ice :D:D
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and another thing, if you can't get laid during freshers week it's NEVER gonna happen :lol:
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GOOD luck with the UNI MAN
Q:)
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Definately go to freshers week, even if it is just to meet people, just watch how much you drink if you don't want to get completely mashed. Alternitively, there should be a lounge if you are staying in halls, just go down there see if there is anyone who wants to play pool :)
-Will
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I spent some of Freshers week at some dodgy clubs, but it's normally a good larf. I wouldn't worry about it too much, the chances are that there are a fair few people that you'll be with that don't like going to the kind of cheesy club that people think students like.
Once freshers week was over, it was fairly easy to avoid the dodgy clubs and go somewhere decent.
You should be OK in Nottingham (if you avoid getting shot) as there's loads of stuff to do. There's quite often good bands at the Ice Arena and like they said above, Rock City is always good.
Enjoy uni all you young whippersnappers, I left about 3 or 4 years ago now (Loughborough) and I really miss it, this working for a living is a pain in the arse.
Bainzy, do you know where you're stopping in Nottingham when you get there? I designed the electric for a lot of the new student accommodation (and most of the new developments in the city centre).
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Its in the first week that you get to meet everyone and bond with a particular group of people.
Even if you THINK you'll hate it, you'll have fun meeting new people. Its harder to break the ice later on in term. First impressions can stick, so make sure your not 'the boring guy who doesn't go out'.
A wise head on young shoulders!
That first week really is important, everyone's in the same boat and receptive to making new friends. After that, the little groups form and the shutters come down. You'll still make friends, but it'll be much harder work. OK, you're not into the R&B/gangsta shite but even if you're going to be an outsider, now's the time to find the other outsiders!!
I was (am) very lacking in self-confidence; I ducked out of the freshers week thing and after that it took a really long time to make friends (or maybe I just smelled funny :? ). This was 25 years ago and I still bitterly regret it. Yeah, I worked hard and got a good degree, but I honestly believe the main point of University is to get away from home, meet people, maybe make some mistakes, learn from them and "grow up" a little.
Maybe you're a confident sort and I'm sure you won't have the same problems I did, but you have 3 or 4 years ahead of you to meet hundreds of people your own age, from different places and backgrounds and with a huge variety of interests. You'll never get such an opportunity again, so please don't get off to a bad start.
Sorry for making your thread all serious... :(
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Its in the first week that you get to meet everyone and bond with a particular group of people.
Even if you THINK you'll hate it, you'll have fun meeting new people. Its harder to break the ice later on in term. First impressions can stick, so make sure your not 'the boring guy who doesn't go out'.
A wise head on young shoulders!
That first week really is important, everyone's in the same boat and receptive to making new friends. After that, the little groups form and the shutters come down. You'll still make friends, but it'll be much harder work. OK, you're not into the R&B/gangsta shitee but even if you're going to be an outsider, now's the time to find the other outsiders!!
I was (am) very lacking in self-confidence; I ducked out of the freshers week thing and after that it took a really long time to make friends (or maybe I just smelled funny :? ). This was 25 years ago and I still bitterly regret it. Yeah, I worked hard and got a good degree, but I honestly believe the main point of University is to get away from home, meet people, maybe make some mistakes, learn from them and "grow up" a little.
Maybe you're a confident sort and I'm sure you won't have the same problems I did, but you have 3 or 4 years ahead of you to meet hundreds of people your own age, from different places and backgrounds and with a huge variety of interests. You'll never get such an opportunity again, so please don't get off to a bad start.
Sorry for making your thread all serious... :(
Exactly. I'm not naturally confident when meeting new people and when I'm nervous, I usually don't think before I speak. For example, my sense of humour is an aquired taste and unless people have already got to know me, I can seem a little odd-ball (which of course I AM, but I don't want to SEEM it now, do I?) :wink: So for me it was a case of restraining my sense of 'humour' and plucking up the confidence to introduce myself to a set of unfamiliar people who all seem to be getting to know each other.
The best advice is "Be yourself". In my case though, it was more like "Be someone else who's normal". It seems to have worked so far anyway!
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The best advice is "Be yourself". In my case though, it was more like "Be someone else who's normal". It seems to have worked so far anyway!
But now you have to keep it up... FOREVER! :wink:
When I was young ( :cry: ) I used to imagine that I could go away to University or start a new job and pretend to be a completely different person, and nobody would be any the wiser. Never brave enough to try it though.
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The best advice is "Be yourself". In my case though, it was more like "Be someone else who's normal". It seems to have worked so far anyway!
But now you have to keep it up... FOREVER! :wink:
When I was young ( :cry: ) I used to imagine that I could go away to University or start a new job and pretend to be a completely different person, and nobody would be any the wiser. Never brave enough to try it though.
Starting somewhere fresh gives you a good opportunity to change habits if you are mindful of it before you start there
I was glad to move away from secondary school to 6th form college as I had suffered a lot of bullying from brainless idiots who had to prove something.
Each subsequent move allowed me to change and refine who I was and what I wanted to be.
Remember that you have to stay real to your genuine self but can allow a change of habits which may be enough to redefine who you grow into.
I would definately say have fun and not feel left out but be sure that you are doing what you really want to do.
I had a fun time at college but I shunned the hanging out at the bar and drinking myself into debt - instaed I went out and went to lots of gigs
I ended up with the same level of debt that my mates did but I had a big record collection, nice cameras, guitars and amps, guitar lessons and went to loads of gigs rather than having spent it all in the student bar.
I would advise to avoid getting a smoking habit (if you dont already have one) - it is a hard one to kick and costs a lot of money. A 20 a day habit costs like £2000 each year and that gets you a lot of guitars, amps and BKPs.
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I was (am) very lacking in self-confidence; I ducked out of the freshers week thing and after that it took a really long time to make friends (or maybe I just smelled funny :? ). This was 25 years ago and I still bitterly regret it. Yeah, I worked hard and got a good degree, but I honestly believe the main point of University is to get away from home, meet people, maybe make some mistakes, learn from them and "grow up" a little.
Thtas whats worrying me about going to uni, I'm too shy and dont make new friends easily :( I want to go for the experience of living by myself (well with room mates obviously, but away from home), and hopefully to join/form a new band (long shot but it could happen..) but it'd be shite when you have no mates there :lol:
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You've got to remember that everyone is in the same boat. I remember when I got to halls for the first time (there were 18 of us in one BIG house off campus, much beter than halls), it was really strange at first but everyone wanted to get along and with a few days, things were chilled and everyone was having a larf, within a month mayhem ruled and everyone got along really well. I've made friends from there that I keep to this day and will be on the wedding list next year.
Even when I got kicked out of halls (note to all students: if you're skinning up a big double skin splif and there's a knock at the door, don't shout "Come in" just in case it's the sub warden :roll: that's what happened to me but because I admitted it, rather than just kick me out, I got moved to a different hall. Oh, also don't say that you can get rid of the rest of the dope by burning it, they generally don't find that too funny :twisted: ) and got moved to a different hall, the rest of the corridor were really friendly and helped me settle (as did the bar about 10 meters away).
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Thtas whats worrying me about going to uni, I'm too shy and dont make new friends easily :( I want to go for the experience of living by myself (well with room mates obviously, but away from home), and hopefully to join/form a new band (long shot but it could happen..) but it'd be shitee when you have no mates there :lol:
I totally understand what you're saying, Tom. Which is why it's so important to really make the effort right at the start, when even the people who seem so confident are in the same boat as you - they don't know anyone either, and behind the "front" they may even feel a little shy and nervous too.
Everyone is confident about different things - I may not have got over my own social awkwardness, but I have learned that deep down, some of the most confident-seeming people can be really insecure, especially when they're in an unfamiliar place, away from their friends. Never think you're on your own!
And don't think forming a band is a long shot - there'll be loads of people at Uni who play music. Some of them will be posers, some of them will be dicks, some of them will be useless, and most of them will be guitarists :wink: , but none of that matters, it's supposed to be fun (you can draw straws for who has to play bass). Go for it!
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Some of them will be posers, some of them will be dicks, some of them will be useless, and most of them will be guitarists
you jus listed my best features :P
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The best advice is "Be yourself". In my case though, it was more like "Be someone else who's normal". It seems to have worked so far anyway!
But now you have to keep it up... FOREVER! :wink:
When I was young ( :cry: ) I used to imagine that I could go away to University or start a new job and pretend to be a completely different person, and nobody would be any the wiser. Never brave enough to try it though.
Haha, nah I just made myself appear slightly more 'freindly' and confident.
I had stop myself saying certain things, which may or may not have been funny to whoever I was talking to, but that will be out of the bag before next week. Now I am getting to know people, I can judge whether they are likely to be receptive to my surreal ramblings or not, without upsetting anyone...
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The best advice is "Be yourself". In my case though, it was more like "Be someone else who's normal". It seems to have worked so far anyway!
But now you have to keep it up... FOREVER! :wink:
When I was young ( :cry: ) I used to imagine that I could go away to University or start a new job and pretend to be a completely different person, and nobody would be any the wiser. Never brave enough to try it though.
Starting somewhere fresh gives you a good opportunity to change habits if you are mindful of it before you start there
I was glad to move away from secondary school to 6th form college as I had suffered a lot of bullying from brainless idiots who had to prove something.
Each subsequent move allowed me to change and refine who I was and what I wanted to be.
Remember that you have to stay real to your genuine self but can allow a change of habits which may be enough to redefine who you grow into.
I would definately say have fun and not feel left out but be sure that you are doing what you really want to do.
I had a fun time at college but I shunned the hanging out at the bar and drinking myself into debt - instaed I went out and went to lots of gigs
I ended up with the same level of debt that my mates did but I had a big record collection, nice cameras, guitars and amps, guitar lessons and went to loads of gigs rather than having spent it all in the student bar.
I would advise to avoid getting a smoking habit (if you dont already have one) - it is a hard one to kick and costs a lot of money. A 20 a day habit costs like £2000 each year and that gets you a lot of guitars, amps and BKPs.
Great advice... I think this will be a good opportunity to quit smoking as I will have a more limited budget... After an expensive freshers week (which was to be expected) drinking is restricted to £1 a pint nights at various student bars.
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and whatever people think about quitting, it's about 100 times harder
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graduate from nottingham, 5 years living experience in nottingham tells me that whatever happens, do not miss out freshers week since there are so many opportunities to meet different ppl. and the most chance you will ever get to get laid =p
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I had stop myself saying certain things, which may or may not have been funny to whoever I was talking to, but that will be out of the bag before next week. Now I am getting to know people, I can judge whether they are likely to be receptive to my surreal ramblings or not, without upsetting anyone...
So you're saying it might be a bad thing to go up to a bird and say "I don't exactly know what I am required to say in order for you to have intercourse with me. But could we assume that I said all that. I mean essentially we are talking about fluid exchange right? So could we go just straight to the sex. "
:lol:
I'm thinking maybe I should just bring a 20 pack of Fosters and when I get there shout across the corridor in halls "anyone like free beer?" - surely that's a good way to make friends quickly. :wink:
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I live 12 miles outside of Nottingham and gig there quite regularly, so there's something for you to look forward to :D
On a more serious note, Nottingham ain't so bad, you just have to go out and see how you like it :)