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At The Back => The Dressing Room => Topic started by: indysmith on October 10, 2007, 12:09:38 AM
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I'm so homesick.
Uni is great; but every time i listen to my music or play my guitar it reminds me of home and it makes me unhappy that my childhood seems to be over.
It sounds really lame and i guess it is a bit - but i really love where i'm from and moving to the filthiest city I've ever seen has been a major blow for me. (Go Birmingham!) I used to love that songs carried such good memories with them; but now i hate it because they seem so firmly lodged in the past!
I'm trying to listen to new music and play guitar I've never played before to keep me cheery but i love the oldies and keep coming back. I know eventually I'll grow to love this place and I'll have plenty of good songs and memories associated with it, but right now i can hardly wait for the weekend to come so i can go back to Wendover, escape this urban degradation and ride my bike around the lovely green woods, and then come home and crank up my jcm800.
Any other freshers feeling the same?
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Just to let you know, Lehec + AGS are getting worse. I want this childhood to end
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Having been through similar things for the last 3.5 years I can totally sympathise with you.
You already know this but try and keep busy and create new experiences for yourself.
It may be worthwhile avoiding 'old associations' that remind you of more comfortable times. Save those for when you are back in those surroundings so they don't get tainted with negative feelings (I have lost the ability to enjoy certain songs etc for exactly this reason)
Alcohol will probably make you feel worse, so avoid it until you start enjoying your surroundings a bit more.
Take care in the meantime
Rob...
Then again, I leave London permantly on Friday morning so I can vouch for the fact that such phases in your live are only temporary (but thats dosn't help much when you are in the middle of it)
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Rob is right, however tiresome it might be, it is a phase that will come to an end and one day you may find yourself looking back at your Uni days with something approaching affection. There will be many around you feeling the same though it is also the case that not everyone will talk about it. You will make friends in time (some will be friends for many years to come) but you still have us lot.
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They're both right, but it'll pass, just drink more beer. I think everyone gets a bit homesick when they go to uni, it's natural but give it some time. It's a bloody 'orrid feeling though.
I know that the feeling was 100 times worse when I left uni and moved back to my hometown. I was different but everthing else was exactly the same. It's all relative so enjoy uni while you can, it goes bloody quick and before you know it, you've got a sodding job :cry:
After a little while, you'll have a good group of mates and who knows.........I met my wife at uni.
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i feel incredibly homesick whenever i move whatever the circumstances.
once you get a good bunch of pals at uni they'll be friends for life, lots of adventures and so on.
i say, give it another few months
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Yep I've been feeling exactly the same the past few days. The main thing I'm missing is my bed! Last night there was an alarm going off until about 3 in the morning and I had a 9:00 tutorial :( I havent had many good nights sleep yet as I'm used to sleeping in a quiet village whereas here people are always moving about and making noise! Havent had a nice roast dinner for a few weeks either :cry: I will say the nights out are better than at home though, in the past few weeks I've been drunk more times than I usually get in a year :P
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Chin up Indy.
This is so very normal.
Go out as much as you can and meet as many people as you can. Soon enough you'll have a ball and forget about home.
Birmigham is a great uni and good social life.
I grew up there but went to Reading Uni. Still go to some student pubs when I go back to brum.
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I will say the nights out are better than at home though, in the past few weeks I've been drunk more times than I usually get in a year
good lad!
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Yep I've been feeling exactly the same the past few days. The main thing I'm missing is my bed! Last night there was an alarm going off until about 3 in the morning and I had a 9:00 tutorial :( I havent had many good nights sleep yet as I'm used to sleeping in a quiet village whereas here people are always moving about and making noise! Havent had a nice roast dinner for a few weeks either :cry: I will say the nights out are better than at home though, in the past few weeks I've been drunk more times than I usually get in a year :P
Yep, that sounds about right- but gotta say my Uni days were some of the best of my life. Just work hard and play even harder!
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but gotta say my Uni days were some of the best of my life. Just work hard and play even harder!
I like your style! :P
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I was the opposite. I couldn't wait to leave my family home and start fresh. Albeit it took until the final year of my degree to move out, but those first three years sucked at home.
Never really moved far, but I suppose I'm the odd one out and had many annoying family problems to deal with, divorce ain't pretty.
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Stick with it Indy - savour the time at home, and enjoy Uni, as you say, you will soon have great experiences there to remember! (or not if your 'tom on the town' ! ;) )
Every Uni will have a Rock Soc..and do't forget other support that is available to you if you need it (here ends the lesson we (as a lecturer) give to all new students :) )
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How many signs, I wonder, from Wendover, had the W changed to a B?
I wish I could get away from Leeds, too many students 8)
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Here's something to cheer all you freshers up - I went to Sunderland Uni. How much better do you feel now? Sunderland is a total hole, I've been there once since I graduated and I only live 20 minutes down the road.
I've got real sympathy for Indy, I've got a friend who lives outside Birmingham and every time I go down there I feel glad to live in Newcastle.
:twisted:
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I went from the boonies of Wales to Manchester when I went to uni, so I went from a village of just under 1000 people to a halls of residence with nearly 1500!! It's some scary shite to start out, but you make friends and then get on with things.
Someone once said to me about uni..........
"It's the time of your life where you have minimum responsibility and maximum possibility"
Make use of your time and let yourself go. I loved Uni, but every step of your life is simply another step on and I'd never swap what I have now for those days in Uni......... but you can bet your bottom dollar that I'll be boring people with the stories until the day I die! :twisted:
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Look on the bright side - there is a pretty good number of Gigs in Brum and especially if you can travel out to other bits of the West Mids.
Think of it as a working trip where you can appreciate the social aspects and enjoy the countryside when you go home...and you re not really that far from Bucks geographically speaking.
I am torn in similar ways - i live in surburbia (Croydon) and love it's easy transport and easy access to gigs and events all across London, whilst my girlfriend lives in a pretty part of north Essex, which is relatively unspoilt but "out in the boonies"/sticks.
Not to mention- being in suburbia does mean that my business is accessable to more musicians too.
So get used to Brum, and look forward to going home to Buck during holidays
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im so wasted right now ; but i just want you guys to know that i have hundreds, if not billions of friends around here already - everyone's awesome. the nightlife is amazing - i have tickets to NOFX at carling academy at the beginning of next month - i love my halls, i love my independance. yet none of this stops me missing the old days and my old friends. I know its something i've gotta live with and i'll manage fine. Somebody said that i've still got you guys - and that's very much the case and it's really suprisingly comforting. thanks dudes. sleep tight
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Yes......I think he's pissed :lol:
Good lad
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The old days can always be missed, but the homesickness is merely just a symptom of the first tentative steps into something new. You'll be asking yourself what you were missing in a months or so time.
I'm 31 now and someone recently asked me that if I could go back in time where would I go to?
I said somewhere about 5 to 2 years ago IF I MUST!! Thing is that each step like school, uni, first job is simply just that........a step to the next big thing. Your life isn't laid before you, you make the choices every morning that lead you forward, just remember to take the path that looks the most fun then you'll have lots to bore your grankids with when you're old! :D
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Rob is right, however tiresome it might be, it is a phase that will come to an end and one day you may find yourself looking back at your Uni days with something approaching affection. There will be many around you feeling the same though it is also the case that not everyone will talk about it. You will make friends in time (some will be friends for many years to come) but you still have us lot.
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when i was at uni i was looking forward to the weekend every week... now i'm home i look back with affection, even though deep down i know i hated it at the time... :lol:
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Rob is right, however tiresome it might be, it is a phase that will come to an end and one day you may find yourself looking back at your Uni days with something approaching affection. There will be many around you feeling the same though it is also the case that not everyone will talk about it. You will make friends in time (some will be friends for many years to come) but you still have us lot.
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when i was at uni i was looking forward to the weekend every week... now i'm home i look back with affection, even though deep down i know i hated it at the time... :lol:
I was GUTTED when I left uni and when I'd go back home I would be equally gutted. However, I sure am glad I'm not a penniless student anymore!
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yeah, it's great just being penniless now... :lol:
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I'm home for the weekend. I forgot how INCREDIBLE my Nailbomb'd Ibanez thru an analogman SD-1 and my V30/G12H'd jcm800 2x12 combo sounds.
It's just the best tone in the world. Man i love playing guitar at home - hardly played since i've been at uni - can't stand having nothing propper to plug into. I might just drive the '800 up to birmingham tomorrow together with my sound system and the rest of my guitars.
Theres plenty of blaring house and r'n'b music thats on all day long back in my halls, so i'm sure noone will mind a bit of guitar plaguing their ears for a change...
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If it makes you feel any better indy I miss Amershem too.
Of course I wont be there ever again as my sister has moved away from there and because of family commitments I wont get back to the UK for some time now.
I remember posting a cryptic litle thread about 2 years ago saying "ahh Tesco in Amershem" and it took you 3 days to figure it out and reply..... Its an Awesome part of the world and so you should miss it.
Just remember not to let life pass you by whilst doing so.
cheer up Matey. :D
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i have tickets to NOFX
That will surely lively up things!
Takes me back to when i was about your age. Just enjoy yourself as good as you can and all will be fine, i didnt cope with changes too well in the beginning also, but theres no need to worry really.