If you put two identical pickups in a guitar, the neck pickup would be fatter, bassier, and louder - because there's more movement of the strings over the neck pickup.
Most people prefer the bridge pickup to be as loud, or louder than, the neck, so neck pickups are usually underwound to compensate for the natural difference between the two positions.
If you find your bridge pickups too loud, they're probably a bit hotter than they need to be to match well with the neck pickups. As Dave says, you could try lowering the bridge pickup or raising the neck pickup, it'll make a small difference.
As for your SG question, there should just be space for a third pickup - hence the SG Custom: