Just man up and use thick strings. Anything less than 11s is girl territory.
On a serious note, you CAN calculate string tensions, best to ask Roobubba on the forums, pretty sure he mentioned he calculated his out. Basically anything more than a half step on 9s or 10s will be wobbily and not tight enough, 11s can happily go down to C standard, but will feel 'loose'. Any lower and you're into man land, 12s and up.