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[Fourth Feline]

I don't have the "When Harry Met Sally" problem at all.  Exactly the opposite in fact.  :(

Ditto Philly :

If the famous phrase " I'll have what she's having " - ever gets aired, it is usually me realising that I had made the wrong initial choice of confectionery.

[Philly Q]

 :lol: :lol:

[38thBeatle]

That's a very lovely explaination.. They sound very special indeed.

I agree.They sound like true friends.

[FernandoDuarte]

Hey Derek, sorry for hearing about your desiase, hope it's under control now.

Perhaps someday I'll be able to be such a gentleman like yourself. By now I'm kinda brute :?
But I've the quite opposite problem than you and Mr Philly Q, I'm beyond shy and have real problem to start a conversation with any human being and it doesn't get easier if it's a woman... :(

[Philly Q]

But I've the quite opposite problem than you and Mr Philly Q, I'm beyond shy and have real problem to start a conversation with any human being and it doesn't get easier if it's a woman... :(

I was incredibly shy, still am in many ways (I hardly spoke to anyone for 3 whole years at University, which is supposed to be the time of your life!  :roll: )

But it gets easier as you get older, Fernando, at least in everyday conversation  :) .  But I still can't even begin to "chat up" a woman - I just hope I get lucky some day. 

Or maybe I should just hang out with Afghan.  :P

[Ian Price]

I've generally been okay with chatting to people throughout my life - a few times I have been caught off guard as the attitude I have been met with when trying to start a (polite) conversation has been incredibly rude. Almost a "how dare you even talk to me" look. I find that very difficult to deal with being a very down to earth sort of person who has no real enemies (that I know of). Coincidentally all of the people that have given that sort of response have been very attractive.

I enjoyed reading your story Derek - a good lesson in life there.

[Andrew W]

I used to be very shy, especially when I was in my teens and found that most of my then friends didn't actually share much in common with me.  I found once I went to art college and met people who were similarly obsessed in what they were doing I felt a lot less self-conscious and came out of my shell much more.  These days I don't think I'd be accused of being the quiet one but I'm convinced that's all due to the people I've met over the years since school.

And since I've never posted a picture of myself in this thread, here's the most recent:

[FernandoDuarte]

Is that mustache real??? It's very uncommon see these nowaways, but they're totally BKP, you look like one of the old boxers!

I'm very shy but always try hard to get out of the shell, but them I say a lot of stupid things ¬¬

[MDV]

It's Dinner Time.....

That face strikes a chord ...

:lol::lol:

You look like pretty much exactly the gentleman that you post here as

I, however, am far less so; the blonde on the left is HOT. Number please, or I'll post tech death metal in your jazz thread! ;) :D

Thank you Mark.  :)

I regret to inform the house that the two young ladies in question have recently 'gone off the market' so to speak.

It's a shame really ,  as you would match well with the young lady you took a shine to ;   she being the more  cerebral and educated - without losing the warmth. She shares another compelling quality ( not surprisingly ) with her Mum ; in that one perceptive look from her mid conversation and " You know that you've been Tango-ed " .  :lol:

Gosh, they even make me wish I was 20 something, rich and incredibly attractive in whatever way they would find amenable.   But in my position, one must think pure thoughts - and 'act my age'.  In my case, the richer and more enduring reward of not being so ,  Is that I instead, hit the strata occupied by their charming Mums ; all afternoon teas and whistfull shared memories.   Rather endearingly ; your comments about the younger blonde lady - and Bucketshred's about the 'healthy' looking young lady - would both be met with grateful blushes - and no real assumption ( on their part ) that they are 'popular'.   

The only drawback you may both find with our blonde friend, is that she dislikes Metal .   PDT_038 Otherwise I readily concur with your forum signature :

" Knowledge of the young Lady's phone number is the most important tool, all others are useless without it "   

Meanwhile , feel free to post Tech Death Metal on the 'Geezer's ' thread anytime - and raise the technical standard somewhat.  8)

Cheers !  :D

Intelligent, unpretentious, friendly and gorgeous?

wait

Doesnt like metal?!?!?

Forget it then!

j/k its hardly a requisite. I only require that they either dont mind me hammering stupid riffs and musically nonsensical shred out (and playing music along the same lines), or can tolerate it!

I think I may have to take your invitation in the jazz thread! If only because I know no music theory, or next to, and would be intrigued as to what jazz-educated ears would make of some of it (which has been jazz influenced). I'm afraid my contribution to the discussion will be useless - whatever parts of my brain understand timing, melody and harmony dont have the words to express themselves. Either I understand it through the sound directly, or I listen to it until I do. I dont have the lexicon to communicate it.

[Fourth Feline]

I think I may have to take your invitation in the jazz thread! If only because I know no music theory, or next to, and would be intrigued as to what jazz-educated ears would make of some of it (which has been jazz influenced). I'm afraid my contribution to the discussion will be useless - whatever parts of my brain understand timing, melody and harmony dont have the words to express themselves. Either I understand it through the sound directly, or I listen to it until I do. I dont have the lexicon to communicate it.

You used the word 'Lexicon " so you've already trounced us on the expressive front.  :lol:

And yes, it would be great to hear much more of you - especially as I also have only just started to learn the underlying theory myself. The main value(s) of you being there ( aside from the obvious one of you being just you ) being  that what you already do is well considered, free and expansive in nature - and of course well played.  :)

It reminds me of the advice given to me from the last two ( guitar and Keyboard )  session players I asked technical / theoretical questions of , regarding 'correct' substitutions and 'right' note / scale choices:

The pianist  / composer just said, " It's in the ears' , if it sounds right - it IS right " .  He believed that theory was best considered as interesting reading after the event.   And secondly , the rather laid back session guitarist I once had to understudy for a short run of 'Joseph's Amazing Technicolour Dreamcoat' ;  turned up to a   rehearsal / my only briefing , having forgotten to pack any of his music sheets for the show. Upon realising what he had done, he turned to me with a casual wink, and tugging on his right ear , said :

" Mmmm, we'll just have to use these tonight " .  :lol:

He underplayed ( which in turn sounded very professional )  merely alluding to what he thought was the underlying structure and key(s) of each song . Well, the rather irascible / demanding ( yet blissfully unaware of the guitarists omission ) Conductor though he did great.  The player turning to me again at the end , grinned - and said

" It's a good job I forgot the music then ... ".  :)

In contrast to that, a somewhat (technically / theoretically ) pedantic  pianist and teacher of Music Technology / Studio craft I know , doesn't  seem to be able to perform 'on the fly' in quite the same free flowing and emotive manner as the above.   He probably knows much more theory than both of the above two put together, but as such seems to be always going for that which is known in advance to be absolutely /  technically correct.   It therefore sounded relatively  stilted - and gave the subtle impression he was always getting in his own way.  

I say that not in defence of me 'knowing nowt' - but rather that the onset of ( and confidence to at least try )  my own current project,  was only enabled by the  influence of the 'Ear men' - Joe Pass and Larry Carlton included.

I remember the words of one famous weightlifting coach : " Perfect is the enemy of good" .   :)

[Fourth Feline]

Hey Derek, sorry for hearing about your desiase, hope it's under control now.

Perhaps someday I'll be able to be such a gentleman like yourself. By now I'm kinda brute :?
But I've the quite opposite problem than you and Mr Philly Q, I'm beyond shy and have real problem to start a conversation with any human being and it doesn't get easier if it's a woman... :(

Thank you Fernando.  :)

As you will have gathered, the condition of which I speak is never cured of course, but instead - one aims ( largely via chemicals ) to limit the swing of the pendulum, or at least put padding in when it hits the insides of the clock.  :lol:  

After all, at source (I am led to believe ) it begins as a simple 'electrical problem' in the temporal lobes of the brain. A kind of psychological seizure / epileptic fit . Of course the outcome is crazily destructive - and very emotive when it hits the cognitive processes. If the 'quickening' / erratic behaviours prompted by that 'brain storm'  do not lead you into danger,  then, as   " Every action has an equal and opposite re-action " - the inevitable drain switches you off - and ( rather perversely ) then can suggest to the more 'aware' parts of the ( by now altered ) psyche  that you 'self terminate' as an extension of that.   It's not the usual 'you'  that is making any of those extreme decisions/actions at the time, but the incredibly speeded up or slowed down alter egos that you 'morph' into . Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde.  :o

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On the far more compelling and fragrant topic of talking to 'La Belle Femme' - Philly is of course spot on, in that it gets easier with age  - and the more you do, the more you can do.  To remember that first and foremost, they are of course subject to exactly the same thoughts and feelings as you - and may ( behind a air of confidence)  be just as shy at talking to you , as you are of talking to them.  My own extended circle of female friends being made possible, not by an incredible confidence and persuasion on my part, but by the humility and warmth that comes of wanting ( first and foremost ) to hear / understand / appreciate / share what I would in anybody - that being how do they find and navigate the 'human condition' - their hopes and fears , the common ground between us - which often stretches far and wide. To just remember, that like you mates here on the forum, they might actually want to hear what you are thinking / have to say.

To leave a nice impression with them, to quell for a time that feeling of hunger within you ( Women can smell that a mile off  :lol: ) - and not grasp or inwardly grab out.  Plant a nice seed ( No , not that one Afghan Dave )  -  thus eventually making them more likely to return- and ask / understand the same things in you as you would in them. To make friends first ( however slowly that takes to evolve ) - friends second, friends thirdly - and all else beyond that  either happening or not. The friendship part not being limited by many of the  things that might put a ticking time bomb in an overtly physical 'negotiation'.  To enjoy life, and in turn just allow them to enjoy that part of you.

 :)

[bucketshred]

Fourth Feline, you are a true gent!

Paddy

[_tom_]

You do have a way with words, FF :)

I'm also ridiculously shy around people I don't know and even my good friends some times. It's getting better with the more weight I lose though, the two must be linked somehow  :idea:

[nfe]

Intelligent, unpretentious, friendly and gorgeous?

wait

Doesnt like metal?!?!?

Forget it then!

j/k its hardly a requisite. I only require that they either dont mind me hammering stupid riffs and musically nonsensical shred out (and playing music along the same lines), or can tolerate it!

As an aside, I often find this interesting. I absolutely could not be in a relationship with someone who's music taste run much the same way as my own, I'm at two or three gigs most weeks, I spend a huge amount of time in the house recording, I'm at a bunch of extreme metal festivals a year, most of my spare time is taken up organising another two festivals and I generally listen to music 99% of time I'm at home.

If they couldn't hack horrible noise, they likely just couldn't be around me for any length of time  :lol:

[Fourth Feline]

You do have a way with words, FF :)

I'm also ridiculously shy around people I don't know and even my good friends some times. It's getting better with the more weight I lose though, the two must be linked somehow  :idea:

Cheers Tom !

( And thank you Ian & Paddy )  :)

If it is of any re-assurance Tom, my own ( more meaningful ) progress in that field was seemingly linked to me gaining a lot of medication weight. It did surprise me, and I concluded that :

When we are what we think is going to be more physically attractive, which can include ( but is not limited to ) being  thinner / more 'buff' / wearing contact lenses / being 'gifted' or otherwise in the under pant department. e.t.c   we are simply giving ourselves  more permissions, more validity with which to sally forth into the act of courtship : we are giving ourselves some illusory ' Higher pass grade' with which to better seek amorous employment.

That the 'quality' women / sensible chaps, find a person who is relatively comfortable with whatever they are - the more attractive.  Stephen Fry , Brian Blessed and Michael Palin still getting more sustained attention - than whichever 'Mr Big-sexy'  has just won some rather vacuous talent show. As the Taoists say - " Embrace the un-carved block ".

Further to which, thinking of previous jobs I had : In the first example, the young woman all the men wished they had 'nabbed' first - was a 'plain' looking girl, who was cheerfully down to earth - and quite beyond bothering about the dictates of fashion.

In my last job, the man voted ' the secret fancy' of the ladies, was a 40ish and somewhat avuncular chap with a large tummy - and complete lack of guile.

Don't worry, It only took me 48  years to ' Take heed' of  this lesson .  :lol:

To not 'bust a gut' beyond a healthy and enjoyable 'hobby' of merely optimising one's self without needing to alter the intrinic nature of one's self ( As this is Tom I'm chatting with, not some loathsome example of the indigenous 'Pond life' ).  

That being already assumed ; I feel that to deny and forcibly alter your genetics and inherent nature ( an uphill and rather illusory quest in itself ) - often lifts you into the field of the less desirable and potentially shallow , needlessly demanding  ladies.

When manic ( and then blending that in an interesting souffle of teenage angst - and mid life crisis ) I must have been one of the best dressed, facially moisturised, predatory pain in the ar*es that had ever seen light of day. I remember one young Lady with whom I had a longer term romantic liaison , saying in candour :

 " I think I prefer you depressed".  :lol:

Weight loss,  fitness - and the saner aspects of the 'Metro-sexual' lifestyle, being best explored in the knowledge that it can often have a knock on effect of making you potentially much healthier in middle age and beyond , thus giving you more time on this planet with your loved ones. However, when we ( and I speak as the previously dammed  :lol: ) lose our 'core' - we switch off the very magnet we would like to attract the 'goodies' of this life with. Bosses you would want to work for like a 'straight up'  chap, and women  (of the type that you would love to eventually Marry) need to know that you are in their 'Club' or orbit  too.

Just a thought . ( or 20 )   :lol: