Steady mate! Chicken and egg - I've been an anal bar-steward about sound for some time now! (small time 'local' just starting out, giving it a try!) 'producer' -> anal about sound or the other way round? Hmmmmm :lol:
I suppose context matters - it wasnt really a serious attempt at 'proper' performance and I'll give him the benefit of the doubt that he can do better with some picky bar-steward like me (or preferably better) putting up a decent setup for him and going 'again, but this time think about coming in a bit more confidently, and keeping breathing under control' or 'again, but try and really focus on pitch' or some other ego-cushioning thing that you have to do with poor delicate singers :lol: (guitarists I've recorded have been quite receptive to 'again, but this time without sucking!')
I know what you mean; sometimes the planets align and it works, sometimes its a $%ing bloodbath trying to get things to sound how you want them to. Its great when it just $%ing happens.
I think you got skills though, and am glad that you have the will and means to pursue it, if not the time, cos youre better at it than you let on!