I'm 27 today

[Dmoney]

And I really feel past it.
Like I've lost all the chances to do the things I want musically, careerwise, in life.
I've lost all interest in everything. I don't really listen to music any more, or play guitar that much, or go to see bands.
I cling on to the idea something might pull me out but I don't know anyone I could start a band with that would have the same goals as I would.
I was reading add's for guitarists wanted and I seemed to be too old for some! not that I was that interested in them anyway.
I have no other interests. I've even drawn a line under messing with amps.

It's my bands last show at the end of the month.
I feel very negative about playing it but I will absolutely do it. Im also partly organising the event.
It sold out in 20hrs. Underworld let us sell 500 tickets. with bands and guests we'll have 600 people there.

wasted opportunities.

I hate my job. I need to sort my life out.
someone got me a cake in work and all the people i dislike are eating it (plus some guys i do like)

cheers life.

oh... and David Cameron is the PM.
thanks humanity.

[MDV]

Seiously mate, quit yer whining

Had to open with that, sorry

Happy birthday.

To your lamentations - I was 28 sunday before last, work a job I'm bored with and have no idea what I want to do with my life longer term (or even tomorrow). On darker days I feel the years I've spent since uni have been wasted, doing a job which is uninteresting and unchallenging (but pays well, so it rather traps you in a confort zone!), and with no obvious objective professionally. Musically, I just bash guitars and occasionally record them; there is no chance and never was any chance of me getting a sucessfull (however one defines that) band. I just do my thing - I enjoy playing, so I play. I couldnt give a $%&# about any 'scene'.

I think youre looking at the whole thing from the wrong end, however. You've mistaken not being a kid anymore for getting old. You've been a card-carrying adult for less than a decade, a recognisable sentient being for perhaps 13 or 14 years (I dont count children as real people). There are only, oh, 5 or so times that to go till your most statistically likely time of death. Life happens in stages, chapters, its time you found your next one (I know this because we're in basically the same situation, mid/late 20s crisis :lol: except one of us whines about it more ;))

Stop thinking about the things that you dont think you can do anymore and the things you hate that youre doing, think what it is you want to do, be prepared to experiment too; it wont kill you. Well, probably not. (I'm trying to follow this advice myself, its not easy, but I still think its good advice).

And 27 is no way no how too old to learn to do ANYTHING else. Its a matter of choosing/finding it.

[Philly Q]

It could be worse.  You could be 47 today.

Happy birthday!  :D

[MDV]

It could be worse.  You could be 47 today.

Happy birthday!  :D

Quite!

And if 47, replace with 67, and if older than that (or any age for that matter) replace with 'dead'!

[BigB]

Watch out sonny, this looks dangerously like a nervous breakdown is on the way - and believe me or else, but this is nothing funny at all. Been here, done that, bought the T-shirt  :?

FWIW, I've been thru very similar feelings when I was about your age. Now I'm 43, I'm happy again playing the guitar, looking for gigs for my new band, and just amazed I wasted so much time not doing what I so desperatly need to do however bad I'm at it. So well, I'm not going to be a rock star never - I learned to live with it - but at least I'm alive and rockin' :twisted:

So once again:

Rejoice rejoice
Good tidings I bring you
Hear ye a message to you my friend
Voices cry invoke your angels
When pressure drop it cannot conquer dread no
So blow away your bluesy feeling
Spirits say take the world off you shoulder
One foot in the grave is a foolish step to take

Oh, and Nicolas Sarkozy is the president here. Duh :(

[MrBump]

Having just turned 39, I refuse to sympathise!!!

;)

It's just a rut.  The same rut we all get into.

Get out of it.

A very wise man once said:

"If you don't know what to do, do something".

/bullshitee

Mark.

[MDV]

Having just turned 39, I refuse to sympathise!!!

;)

It's just a rut.  The same rut we all get into.

Get out of it.

A very wise man once said:

"If you don't know what to do, do something".

/bullshiteeee

Mark.

:lol:

Love it! Funny for its bluntness, but so true.

[38thBeatle]

In 10 years time you'd love to be 27. You are a couple of months younger than my eldest son-you make me feel old but I don't give a sh*t.

[juansolo]

Past it my arse. I made a conscious decision not to grow up when I turned 30 and I've had a blast ever since. It comes from acceptance. I accept I'm never going to be a famous racing driver, but I love to play with racing cars so do so. I accept that I really like pie and exercise bores me stupid, so I'm fat. Which not only makes me more boyant than skinny people, but also naturally warmer. I accept that I have a job that I don't particularly like, but in the scheme of things, isn't exactly tough and it pays for my car habit so I tolerate it. I accept that this is my lot in life and set about to enjoy myself as best I can within these parameters. Since then I've had an absolute blast and count my 30's as some of the best times in my life.

Sure there are regrets and there's tonnes of things I'd probably do differently with hindsight. But there's f**k all you can do about that now, so why dwell on it. You are where you are, make the most of it. With the rate at which my body is packing in I'm cramming in as much as I can while I still can. The saddest thing in the world is to get old, have loads of savings and not be able to do anything with them. My plan is to be knackered and broke at that point, but knowing that I had a bloody good time getting there.

[Dmoney]

'past it' was a bad choice for a descriptive phrase.
I just don't know what im doing any more.

its been a 6 year rut.
i went to bed at 3pm yesterday and got up for work at 7am today. I used to sleep as soon as i got home from work, in my work clothes, and then wake up the next morning 10mins before i needed to leave to go back to work. I feel like im getting back to that stage.
I've had counselling and been on a few different kinds of anti depressants, and that was before I watched my mum die last year.

I try to do things. I did a new band, we played one show. It was awkward and our drummer quit right after and that was that. I don't really have any interests outside of music and music related paraphernalia to fall back on. So know that playing guitar makes me feel sad, and slightly physically ill, and I can't listen to music for the same reasons, it's hard.

My job involves fixing things TV related on the fly. the last time something happened i just walked out and grabbed a fizzy pop because I didn't care. I've pretty much told my boss I don't have any specific interest related to my job so training, or becoming a specialist in anything isn't on the agenda. I just do enough to get by... or i did. I work with good guys though and i'm grateful for that.

I hit up some places looking for new jobs. I guess thats doing something.
I also went to that martial arts class, but working 10hr shifts (which include nights, early morning, and evenings) on an 8 week rotation doesn't leave much time for regular participation in anything that can't be moved around to fit into my schedule.

I haven't had a drink in 9 years and right now i want to sit in my room and get wasted.

[Fourth Feline]

Take heart, the outlook can be very good.

I 'started again' , bringing more quality to existing relationships, taking my musical interests off in a new and very challenging direction, decided to re-learn my other hobby ( weightlifting ) anew, with a better foundation and (again) completely new direction / ethos at age 51.   Add to that,  the fact that all the above was taken on / reclaimed after the preceding years / life had been being wrecked and then put in temporary suspension for some years by the chronic 'flowering' of an existing Mental Illness prior to the above 'good bits'.

This current era is turning out to be the most sustainably rewarding era thus far, so much gained. I genuiunely feel more empowered and better equiped at 51 than 21, 31, 41 e.t.c .  Looking forward to doing it better in the next couple of decades !

No such thing as absolutely 'wasted'  time as such ;  just preparatory phases of life that fall away like a shuttlecraft when appropriate.  It's all an essential and contributory part of the overall expressive, creative , living journey - including the need for your engines to stall from time to time.

As others have said, I am sure my two ( much younger )  mates that died of Cancer / ran out of time in the last couple of years, would love to be swapping places with you just now, just to hold their loved ones again. The dead envy you.

Time runs out for all of us eventually, so re-charge your batterries, go with the ebb and flow that is the human condition, and jump back in when suitably refreshed.  :)

(And , as point of ethics - if you're going to jump, don't land on anybody - it's not their fault ).

* Edit *

At first, your post looked like ( emotive ) 'Spam' for the gig   :lol:

[Stevepage]

Ever thought of saving all the money you don't find time to spend and going travelling?

I'm sure seeing parts of the world you never knew existed and appreciating new and different things would help you in the journey that is life.


That sounds like a pretty good idea actually, think I may do that myself when I get a damn job.

[Dmoney]

yeah it has crossed my mind.
im not untravelled though im not travelled either.
I've worked New Delhi, Belgrade, Istanbul. I spent 2 months living in Delhi.
I've been round germany, parts for italy, belgium, holland.
I've been coast to coast in the US and to toronto, montreal and quebec in canada.

i've thought about trying to find work overseas even. or maybe even internships in places i could fit in between my job in london.

I have a nice bit of money saved, but coming from a family where half way through the week we'd run out of food, I kind of hoard it. Since my Mum died to, my dad got lumbered with a lot of debt and i paid off a few thousands pounds of that. He's a welder/fitter. So my income in a lot more than his, but he looks after my younger brothers and sister. One of my brothers works, the other looks after the family home and my sister who is at high school now. So my job affords the family some economic stabilty should anything serious happen (like it DID happen).
So that basically puts me in state of mind where although I don't have an interest in my job any more, i do value the people around me there, and the security it gives me. So to up and leave would feel irresponsible, no matter how paranoid that may be.

[38thBeatle]

I have been through more than a few traumas in my time-in fact I have one developing at the moment that is gonna be one of the toughest but one thing I have learned- don't let life take you too seriously. And getting old is better than the alternative. If I can think of any more smart a*se cliches I shall let you know immediately if not sooner.

[Dmoney]

hahaha. its ok, when i saw that counsellor i heard them all then... 'so how was your relationship with your dad?' etc