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Ian Price

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Re: Ever just think about not playing guitar?
« Reply #15 on: March 06, 2011, 05:57:05 PM »
I'm of pretty much the same mindset as you Philly. I know I'll never be great (or even good) but something about the look of the guitars fascinates me. I doubt I'll ever change but will no doubt go through various stages of wanting to give up.
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Re: Ever just think about not playing guitar?
« Reply #16 on: March 06, 2011, 07:20:19 PM »
Thanks for the posts guys, appreciate the kind words and advice.

I'm sure I'll be fine and get over it, so my gear will be staying where it is (sorry Dave  :lol:).

Thing is, I'd been in a non playing rut for about 6 months before the audition came along and it spurred me back into action. Now it's all been a waste (in some ways, not in others) I'm more or less right back where I was.

I'm like Philly and Ian in that I'm not that great (their words not mine), I should be alot better for how long I've been playing, and it takes alot to motivate me. I'm not the kind of guitarist that can sit at home and write songs, I need to be with someone that can atleast get the lyrics and a vague chord structure etc done and then I jam over it until I find something that works. This means I can't not be in a band if you know what I mean?

It's also another reason I'm probably going to stick to the covers side of things, I'm just not that creative of a player and guess it's easier to play someone elses stuff than to create something new.
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Re: Ever just think about not playing guitar?
« Reply #17 on: March 06, 2011, 08:15:45 PM »
I've only ever wanted to be in a covers band, and I really enjoy the two that I'm in.

it's all about the fun mate, do whatever you enjoy.  Same goes for you too Philly!

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Re: Ever just think about not playing guitar?
« Reply #18 on: March 06, 2011, 08:26:23 PM »
Sounds like you need a massive blow out in a rock club.
Seriously though. Don't worry about it. You found that band, it didn't work out, but you will find another.

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Re: Ever just think about not playing guitar?
« Reply #19 on: March 06, 2011, 09:19:39 PM »
i'd look on the brightside too(i'm a pessamist) in that all the practice is hours under your belt.
it wasn't mean't to be, maybe the next opportunity will be.

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Re: Ever just think about not playing guitar?
« Reply #20 on: March 07, 2011, 02:59:48 AM »
It's a bit like getting dumped by a girlfriend because her flaky ex has asked her out again

Wait until she's getting married to a cross dresser, she's is asking you for advise on which wedding dress and the engagement ring was off ebay which costs less than you're watch!!!

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Re: Ever just think about not playing guitar?
« Reply #21 on: March 07, 2011, 12:20:16 PM »

Like most things in life the journey is more important than the destination.  You got most of the journey done so head off in another direction and start another project.

My band of a few years has just come to an end and I feel the opposite; I'm excited about what other things I can do and feel strangely liberated.  I think as guitarists should always be a bit selfish and say to ourselves that what we do at home, our personal practise and recording is the most important thing and the band stuff comes second anyway.
Bands can be hard work, hard to control and depressing when things go wrong so always make them slighly less important than your playing.

I always put 100% in at rehearsals but if people are moaning about being tired, not bothering to turn up or just not arsed I always think that I could be at home working on a masterpeice rather than this and when it goes tits I go back to my own stuff.


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Re: Ever just think about not playing guitar?
« Reply #22 on: March 07, 2011, 12:21:04 PM »

But in answer to your original question, yes sometimes!

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Re: Ever just think about not playing guitar?
« Reply #23 on: March 07, 2011, 02:15:28 PM »
Getting a set of 40 songs together is no mean feat - I have spent year trying to retain 10!
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Re: Ever just think about not playing guitar?
« Reply #24 on: March 13, 2011, 09:19:17 AM »
(I was going to write a short "bummer, keep your chin up, hope it works out..." reply... instead you got this pile of waffle... sorry! :lol:)

+1 to a lot of what other people have said... especially the stuff about what the intensive practice etc has done for you personally.

Remember I'm vocalist, though, folks :lol: - This git might well have had quite valid reasons for wanting to stick with what he/she knows if he/she can still hang on to it... HOWEVER, look at it this way: "It's their problem, it doesn't matter a bugger why they made the decision they have... they just have, and they can keep it..."

On the question in the title - I have given up playing guitar in the past, totally, for a couple of years. I thought it was for various reasons, but in hindsight it was because I hadn't realised this at the time:

it's all about the fun mate, do whatever you enjoy.

It's so easy to become a slave to anything we do, whether we do that thing because we enjoy it or not. But it's a real surprise to discover that something we do because we thought we enjoyed it, and because it's "what makes the days worthwhile" (music to most of us on here I guess), is what is actually bringing us down...

I gave up for a couple of years, but I needn't have left it that long if I'd realised earlier that it wasn't the guitar playing itself that was getting me, but the expectations I was bringing to it that were depressing me so much...

Have a look at why you're playing, what gives you the jollies, explore what's in your control to make it seem worthwhile again.... I'd be quite surprised if you discovered that there's no point at all in carrying on.

I have to admit that I'm in a totally different position to you and a lot of others on here. I've discovered that I don't actually need other musicians to do what makes my bell ring. In some areas, other musicians would make some of the things I want to do so much easier. But, in general, my experience with bands over the years means I actively do NOT want the involvement of any others (musicians, promoters, pub-landlords, etc) in my music at the moment, perhaps never ever again... I've never been happier with my guitar-playing and music than I am now, just piddling around being a one-man band and making my stuff available for free on the internet.

However, I fully understand the position you're in. The other guitarist in the last band I was in 10 years ago is in the same boat - without lyricist, singer, bassist, drummer, etc, he felt couldn't actually do what he enjoyed doing so much.

Think about what drew you to the wretched thing (the guitar) in the first place, what kept you spending (time and money) on it... are these things gone? If not, concentrate on them for a while, everything will fall into place, mebbe not in the way you're expecting at the moment...

Good luck :D

Btw, I don't feel the need to play live anymore, but if I did, I love 38th's suggestion about open mic nights, it sounds like a really good idea to me. There is so much talent out there, go and see what it's doing and the effect it's having on an audience... chat them up, see what they think they want...
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Re: Ever just think about not playing guitar?
« Reply #25 on: March 13, 2011, 11:25:59 AM »
I always think about packing it in. I'm 29 and have been "playing" since I was 16, but I am really very very cr@p for the amount of time I have owned Guitars. I should be able to widdle and solo all over the place by now, but I just can't. I am self-taught, and reached my self-teaching limit a long time ago, but due to my (eternally) poor financial situation, I can never afford lessons. I need to get lessons in order to progress, so for the last 10 years I have been at the same level of competence.

So yes, I feel like jacking it in all the time. But then I pick it up and get ideas for songs, and I forget the negative stuff. Truly I wish I could eke more technical prowess out of myself, as I get frustrated that I can't play what is in my head, but I keep soldiering on. Hopefully, when I get to 40, I will have enough spare cash for lessons for once, heh. And my gear? PFFFT! Forget about it. I keep kidding myself that I'm going to get a new Axe at some point, I've been playing the same low-end, bottom quality guitars for 12 years and I just keep having to re-solder them or squeeze the last remnants of tonal potential out of them, but ultimately I know I'm fighting a losing battle.

That's why I love coming here and watching people having NGD posts. Whilst I can never have that feeling myself, I get all warm and fuzzy when I see someone else finally putting that particular bout of GAS to rest. I have a lot of admiration for Twinfan, Jonathan, Nolly and gWem... to be able to say "I want that" and a few months later say "NGD! I got it!" must be the nicest feeling in the world, and it makes me feel really happy for them all.

I try to turn this all into a positive for myself, rather than get jealous, throw a hissy fit and give my guitars away, it just spurs me on to be a better song-writer, so that one day I might actually be able to sell my music and get the tuition (and more importantly GEAR!!!) I have always dreamed of! I tried a Korina Explorer recently that was £350 and absolutely loved it! So I set myself a target: Two years of hard work and trying to get my music off the ground finally, I should be able to save up my own money and actually get one. No more credit cards, I am chopping them all up. If I need to, I'll get a job delivering Pizza or something, but I am determined to finally get back in the black, save for lessons and new gear.

If it kills me, I am going to get those lessons and keep picking up my guitars. Negatives to positives, that's all that counts.

NEVER GIVE UP PLAYING!!!!!!!!  :D :D :D

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Re: Ever just think about not playing guitar?
« Reply #26 on: March 13, 2011, 11:50:22 AM »
Thanks for all the advice guys.

I don't think I ever would actually stop playing guitar because if I did, I honestly would have no other outlets or interests to fill my time with. With how cr@p my jobs been for the last year, I REALLY need other things in my life to take my mind off it. I think that's why I was so disappointed when the singer dumped me from the band because after the worst year at work I've ever had I thought I'd finally found something to put my time and effort into but now it's not the case.

I'll keep soldiering on and see where I end up.
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Re: Ever just think about not playing guitar?
« Reply #27 on: March 13, 2011, 11:52:12 AM »
Brow, do you write your own material at all?

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Re: Ever just think about not playing guitar?
« Reply #28 on: March 13, 2011, 12:07:56 PM »
I get this from time to time, I try finding something that inspires me to get back on the wagon and keep practicing. Trouble is life and work seem to get in the way all too often.
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Re: Ever just think about not playing guitar?
« Reply #29 on: March 13, 2011, 01:17:36 PM »
I had a similar experience with a thrash metal band once I wanted to join. In my case I only learned three songs though - it still was a lot of work so I can imagine how you felt with an entire set. What it came down to was that the singer wanted me in the band, the bassist and drummer had no opinion and the other guitarist said "no" and got his way. shite just happens. At least now I can still play Slayer's "The Antichrist", so look at it from the bright side.
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