The big problem with recruiting band members is that they often aren't as into your music as you might think.
Yeah, I've been thinking about this very thing. "Musical differences" is a lot more important than we tend to imagine. I love playing any type of music, for the experience... but what I want to do is play stuff that rings my bell.
If I ended up in a situation where the band wanted to concentrate on a majority of stuff I'm not really into, and wanted to "take it to the next level", then I'd find it very hard to summon up much commitment, especially if the type of stuff I wanted to play was getting left behind.
I'd like to think I'd be upfront about this myself, but who knows?
Years ago I had a bassist I loved leave my band because he couldn't get behind the material. What he brought to it was BRILLIANT, far better than his replacement, but he personally wasn't getting the sh1ts&giggles you need from playing it. He actually came to me about it, and was really upset, and afraid I'd be angry... but I was just so grateful he was able to explain it. It was so obvious he couldn't stay and had to concentrate on the other thing he was working on. We stayed friends and it was all cool.
But so many people aren't able to come out and say "look guys, I thought I would, but I'm not digging it, and I've got higher priorities now..."
There are other reasons for people not "pulling their weight" (eg they're complete nobheads! :lol:), but I reckon a lot of the strange lack of commitment that I've experienced was really down to the fact that they just weren't into what I wanted to do.
The only real solution ... just take them on as hired help and maybe see if they want to make the arrangement more permanent.
I worked this out, and that it pretty much applied to me, when I left my last band... unfortunately, I've never been in a position to pay a band! :lol:
Anyway, Johnny, extreme bummer... sorry to hear it's still flapping about like that :(