If a knob is just falling off, either it's been taken off so many times that it is worn out, or it is not the correct knob for the pot shaft. Superglue will work, but don't expect a tech to be happy having to try and take it off if/when the pot requires replacing. I would just replace the knob, as any glue is likely to wear out in that kind of situation anyway.
It sounds to me like you just threw the pickups in there the first time and just got used to the sound-- adjusting pickup height really isn't difficult, especially as the tech likely has not touched the pole pieces! You only have 2 screws to adjust for each pot, so it'll take no longer than 5 mins to get you in the ballpark. 'agressive yet smooth' is contradictory-- aggressive implies a somewhat spikey, harsher sound, whilst smooth is the opposite of it! (generally, closer to the pickups will give more treble and presence to the sound, backing them off will mellow it out a little)
Personally, I find that I can get more aggressiveness out of a pickup by paying a lot of attention to the polepieces themselves, and finding the correct balance between strings. I tend to put the A and D string polepieces a little higher than the E, so that you get a little more midrange bite on those powerchords on the lower 3 strings.