DANGER DANGER DANGER!!!
NEVER connect two amps to one cab!
Only way this is possible is through a device like a Radial Tone Bone Switcher.
Safe mismatch with impedance is cab value higher than the output value of the OT.
I think you are wrong with all your points here.
The OP was referring to a mono/stereo cab. 8ohm mono, 16ohm stereo. When in stereo the speakers will be working independently but housed in the same cab and electrically disconnected from each other. Connecting a head to each 16ohm input will be exactly like connecting each head to a 1x12. It's absolutely possible and perfectly safe unless the speaker can't handle the power of the amp or the two amps you use are out of phase.
The radial switcher you mention is the Headbone used to switch 2 heads into the same input on one cab... like an advanced A/B switcher. A normal A/B switching box won't work in this position (between head and cab) and introduces a high likelihood of damaging the amp. The Headbone is specifically designed for this application, like you said.
The safe impedance mismatch you mention here is wrong. Think about the worst thing you can do with your valve amp... turn it on with no load!
'No Load' is not zero ohms... having nothing attached to the output jack is in effect an infinitely high impedance, an open circuit. Solid State amps (in general terms) are ok with this. The problem comes when they don't have enough impedance... ie a short from tip to sleeve on the output jack.
Valve amps are different. Using the amp set to 4ohm's into a 16ohm cab is not the safe method. You're setting the amp to drive a low load, and then plugging it into a higher load. With a valve amp, the opposite way is the safer way. Running at 16ohms into 8ohm or 4ohm cab.