Thanks for the huge response guys,
I've been working on getting some essential stuff for recording myself, just to jam over my own music and to hear my own mistakes. Timing has always been a weaker part of my playing since I never really used a metronome, which I have changed lately. I already have seen some improvements, but I'm sure I can bring much more to the table.
I have a good friend of mine who teaches guitar and is an awesome guitarplayer, he studies Jazz Guitar and he's a really great dude, so I will hit him up for lessons. The band thing however isn't going to happen due to my limited amount of time I have, right now I'm just jamming with my best friend and bass player in his basement (we made a rehearsal room out of it.)
JDC: I'm using Dunlop JazzIII XL Picks, so those are pretty sturdy already. I also had a period of time where I used 10-52 Strings on a 25.5 Inch Scale guitar tuned to E-Standard, which is really tight and you have to dig in almost to the point where your fingers bleed. Has helped quite a deal, however nowadays I'm playing E-Standard with 10-46s so it's slightly loose compared to what I did before.
Regarding action I like it low, but I'm not the kinda guy who can't play with higher action and actually I feel even more comfortable with fretboards that have a bigger radius. My Strat feels more comfortable to play most times than my Jackson, the former having a bigger radius.
As far as my skills go, here's an actual video of me playing:
Sylosis Empyreal Sweep. Neubauer Guitars; Bareknuckle Pickups; Orange Micro Terror.I can do fancy stuff like sweeping as you see, but then again I lack in lot of other departments.
As far as books and DVDs go, I've been thinking about getting Scar Guitar by Per Nilsson, Lezard has pmed me with some nice stuff and I got recommendations for the John Petrucci and Guthrie Govan stuff lots of times before, so I will surely check it out.
Considering my goals I'd say: I'd like to play tight rhythm stuff. Keith Merrow, Vogg from Decapitated, James Hetfield of Metallica being some examples. Then again as soloing goes I have the kind of metal thing going on: Josh Middleton from Sylosis, Dave Davidson from Revocation, both being amazing players both rhythm and lead. For the blues stuff I really enjoy John Mayer, BB King, Eric Clapton, Jimi Hendrix and my absolute god, Gary Moore.
I'm open to every genre of music, as long as I like the song.
Sorry for the wall of text, I just really wanna make this work :)
Cheers