is it bad to steal a woman?

[blue]

like i say, this girl i've been getting on well with suddenly springs on me, "i have a boyfriend". should i care?  of course if she'll cheat on him???  and i have well and truly been there...  

my question is, do you think i should pursue a girl i have an amazing connection with despite her having a boyfriend?  should i decide that i'm more important?  should i feel sorry for some phuqwit i've never met?

historically, my fiancee shagged my friend, so i'm kinda evilly biased, but does anyone have a sensible view on the whole thing? i hate the idea of hurting someone, aaaaaagh, my brain is starting to hurt!!!!

okay, telecaster or SG??

[38thBeatle]

s'easy- Telecaster.......
Hmmm, like you I have been on receiving end but in my case it was a wife of 9.5 years with whom I'd had 2 young kids.It takes a while to come to terms with that so I can understand your moral dilemma. I guess you owe the other guy no loyalty but having consideration for him is admirable. She should decide what she wants-does she want a bit on the side (in which case I would avoid for the reasons you have alluded to) or is her relationship not as strong as "I have a boyfriend" suggests and it is little more than a habitual relationship. In the end I think it is better to establish what exactly is the relationship she has and decide then whether you are breaking up a beautiful thing or whether you are the catalyst for what was going to happen inevitably.I suspect none of this is what you don't already know but sometimes you just need someone else to say it.

[Davey]

i'm pretty much in the same boat right now.


what i suggest is make her decide and break up before you start anything, cos if she cheats on him, there is a possibility that she will cheat on you too.

[maliciousteve]

Absolutly, If she is prepared to break up with her boyfriend to be with you, then go for it. But if she has any second thoughts or says that she can't leave him for what ever reason, don't bother what so ever. There's plenty of other girls out there and you're bound to have that connection with at least one of them.

[noodleplugerine]

Hmmm, it's a damn hard decision.

I mean, one option is very rock and roll, and although kinda harsh could be rather smooth for you, if you know what I mean.

The other option is a more mellow choice with more feeling, and possibly more sense.

But it's your choice mate, personally I'd go for the SG.

[blue]

thanks for the replies lads, i still haven't a clue what to do, but she's away until next week so i suppose i'll think about it til then.

i'm having a much harder time now with the tele/SG thing anyway!

[willo]

Been there/am there right now.

At the end of the day, unless you have a relationship/friendship with the other guy, it isn't a moral issue on your behalf. It is a moral issue on HER behalf.

If there are no kids etc involved, and you want more from this girl than a one night stand then you owe it to yourself to do what you need to do to be as happy as you can be.

You can't force her to cheat; but if she is attracted enough to you to take things up a level with you, then who are you to stand in the way of that?

I am in this situation now, and it is awkward. Things just tend to get a bit complicated and it is tricky dealing with the girls guilt that she will most likely feel after/when she has cheated on him. If you're ready to deal with all that, then go for it. If you like someone, and suspect that she may like you, then you should see how far you can take it.

[FELINEGUITARS]

Two thoughts on this

1) It's bad karma - none of us would want a girl to do that to us and by doing it we make more more misery in this world .
She should sort out her issues with her fella and split if she doesn't want to be with him (and thewn see you when she is free to do so)

2) The other thought is that if she'll do it to him, then she'll do it to you.
Find someone with a better moral code

[Crazy_Joe]

If the guy is a hench body builder then i wouldn't recommend it :p

But yeah i wouldn't do it as  i would be really pissed if someone stole my girlfriend.

[dave_mc]

Two thoughts on this

1) It's bad karma - none of us would want a girl to do that to us and by doing it we make more more misery in this world .
She should sort out her issues with her fella and split if she doesn't want to be with him (and thewn see you when she is free to do so)

2) The other thought is that if she'll do it to him, then she'll do it to you.
Find someone with a better moral code

+1

If the guy is a hench body builder then i wouldn't recommend it :p

:lol:

[Muso]

I 100% agree with feline, BAD KARMA!

Women tend string men along just don't be a mug and leave em too it. Theres this 1 chick at work who is the biggest flirt and all the guys follow her round with their tongues hanging out and I show her pretty much 0 attention which I know she hates haha.

Don't bother it ain't worth the hassel. Plenty more fish in the sea but the problem most are Whales or trouts!

[Simon D]

I also agree 100% with Feline.

I've been exactly where you are now blue, and can vouch for the complete accuracy of the statement, "if she'll do it to him, then she'll do it to you".

[99_not_out]

Even though you should walk away for all the good reasons posted above, you're probably not going to, are you? ;)


Just remember what they say about Love and War:

One involves a lot of phyiscal and psychological pain, and the other one's War.

[metal_god]

Dude all you need to know is Karma is a bitch dont f*ck with it or it WILL come back to f*ck you....

[ToneMonkey]

Karma is a word that get's misused a lot nowadays.  I blame "My Name Is Earl".......

......Anyway, when I met my current girlfriend, I was seeing someone and so was she.  Neither of us make a habit of cheating on our partners and we didn't want to then.  However, being human, one thing led to another the original lusty spark of "Blimey, she's got a lovely arse and I want to bite it" turned into something much more serious.  I finished with my gf (which I still feel guilty about as she hadn't done anything wrong) and my current gf finished with her boyfriend (who was a knobhead anyway, I'm still waiting to take him and his mates up on the fight they promised me).

Now we're together and it's only 76 days until we get married.

So my very sensible comment on the matter is.........see what happens.  If I hadn't hurt my ex, I wouldn't be marrying the girl of my dreams.  Sucks, but that's life.  Sometimes people get hurt (like her ex is going to when 3 goons chuck him in the back of a transit and give him a good shoeing)